This woman says it best.
Here are two words that should never go together: spiritual and abuse. It’s a diabolical pairing. The Spirit of God hates abuse, uncovers abuse, and cares for the abused. But we often see spirituality being misused to damage a person created in the image of God.
— Diane Langberg, PhD (@DianeLangberg) August 6, 2022
God grant that we should be more afraid of sin than of its exposure. Sin hidden or buried within a God-ordained structure (such as a marriage or church) is hardly success.
— Diane Langberg, PhD (@DianeLangberg) August 4, 2022
Jesus uses His power to protect, to expose, and to restore dignity. He calls His people to be in the world using our power under His authority, displaying His character by speaking truth, shedding light, and tending and protecting the vulnerable.
— Diane Langberg, PhD (@DianeLangberg) July 24, 2022
Also very good:
When Pleasant Words Hide Harmful Intentions
How to identify flattery in an abusive environment.
https://wademullen.substack.com/p/when-pleasant-words-hide-harmful